September 30, 2010

quasi update on me

Things haven't been going well at all.  Found out my mother completely used  me and my money to get into this house we're in now.  She's losing her house to foreclosure and/or the taxman because she bought a house she knew she couldn't afford so she fed me this sob story on how her husband was cheating on her and she wanted to leave him.  So we got this house based on the fact she wanted to leave him.

She took over the house.  She's treating me like I'm a teenager.  I'm not the destitute daughter that can't pay her bills, in fact it's quite the opposite.  I can't have ANYTHING of mine outside my bedroom.  If I do she throws a hissy fit.  Shoes, jackets, camera, cell phone, iron, whatever, you name it, I can't have it anywhere outside my room.  She put my dogs crate in my room, I had no room with it in there and she flipped out when I brought it into the living room. 

Long story short, turns out she completely lied to me.  Used me and my money, now she's trying to kick me out claiming the landlord doesn't want me here and that I'm a royal slob.  What mother uses their own child for money then immediately tells them to get out?  We weren't here 2 weeks before she started attempting to kick me out.  And of course, the money I had is gone so I have no where to go and because of that a judge gave temporary custody of my two sweet babies to my loser, unemployed, alcoholic, ex without a driver's license.  My own mother caused me to lose custody of my kids to a completely unfit individual.  

So instead of my mother having my back she's got a knife in it.  Once I can get out of here and cut my losses I no longer want to see or speak to her again.  I couldn't imagine doing that to my children, EVER!  So, here's hoping I can get find a place, get my kids back, and cut her out of my life for good.  I'm thinking of putting my shit in storage and renting a room somewhere to save some money to get my own place.  And want to know the double whammy?  My ex TRASHED my credit so of course no one wants to rent to me. 

11 comments:

  1. I am so sorry Audrey! I cannot even imagine having to go through that, nor can I imagine a mother doing that to her own child. Keep your head held high and things will soon fall into place for you!!

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  2. (((((Audrey))))) That's just wrong! Keeping you in my prayers!

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  3. I'm sending lots of positive thoughts your way! I'm hoping your name is on the lease and you can get your mom out of there and the little ones back with you!

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  4. Audrey, I know you don't want to hear this as your pain is raw...but God does drag us through the muck sometimes for a reason. There are many moms out there who do this to their children, use their social security #'s for their own gain, lie, cheat, steal and turn on even the smallest and most innocent. Find a church who will love and support you and help you out. A good friend of mine...had 12 children & one day her hub came home, had her kicked out of the house via police,lied to all the kids convinced them she was mentally ill, left her in the streets. Today, most of her children realize it was him who was crazy, she found a job, lived with people in her NEW church and is so happy.
    I will pray for you and for YOUR mother, she is the one who needs prayer.

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  5. I'm sick inside hearing your story. Thanks for letting us know. I know it doesn't seem like it but things HAVE to get better! Tomorrow is a new day ;-)

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  6. Oh Audrey-I'm so so sorry. I can't imagine. I'll keep you and your sweet kids in my prayers-I hope you can work it out and get them back.

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  7. Audrey, so sorry to hear what you have been going through. You are strong, you got through school even though things were not going well there. Keep your 2 children in your mind and heart and you will eventually get through this.
    I will keep you in my prayers.
    Elaine

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  8. I am so sorry. I can't believe what you're going through. It's awful. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

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  9. I wish I could offer words of wisdom and make you feel better, but I know words can't help right now. I would be thinking in terms of a lawyer to get your money back. In the long run, you will be okay and your mom will one day regret all she did to you...hopefully it won't be too late. Hang in, things have to get better.

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  10. How can you read your story and not leave a comment!
    I only wanted to ask you whether you'd already cleared your head (last post but one). I suppose it's still very crowded up there.
    Wishing you a lot of strength! (from the other side of the water = NL)

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  11. Is your name on the lease, or is your mom's name? I would kick her out if she is not on the lease but if she is, I'd check out renting a room and leave her in the dust. Let her worry about paying for the place and you start over. It may take a little while, but you said you have a job you love and that's a great start. Turn to your friends and keep in contact. {{hugs}} Patty

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